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How to build self-confidence?


Self-confidence is an important part of everyone’s life. A self-confident person loves himself, thinks positively about the future and is not afraid to take risks to achieve all his goals.

On the other hand, people who lack self-confidence usually don’t believe in themselves and tend to have negative thoughts about the future. Luckily, anyone can improve his self-confidence. In this article, I would like to share with you some tips on how you can do that.


Advantages of self-confidence

Self-confidence gives you many benefits – at work, at home and within your relationships. Here are some advantages self-confidence can bring into your life:

Higher productivity

Being self-confident, you can devote your time and energy to achieving your goals instead of wasting it worrying that you are not good enough. When you feel confident, you are more effective and productive.

Healthy relationships

Self-confidence helps you better understand yourself and other people as well. If you don’t get what you deserve, it gives you the strength to leave.

Willingness to try new things

When you believe in yourself, you are more open to new things. You are not afraid to learn something new or sign up for promotion etc.


Self-confidence can improve your resilience, it gives you the ability to recover faster from any challenges you may face in life.


7 ways to improve your self-confidence

Don’t compare yourself to others

Whether you compare looks, personality traits or salary levels, such comparisons aren’t healthy. If you do this, you may experience envy, and envy makes you feel bad about yourself. If you are envious, remind yourself of your own achievements and strengths. There is always someone better, richer and prettier than you are, just like there is always someone less wealthy, less intelligent and less attractive. If you want to be self-confident, you need to concentrate on your own life but not on making it more like someone else’s. Try to spend less time on social media as there we see only perfect pictures but not real life.

Take care of yourself

If you care about yourself, it naturally makes you feel more confident. The following self-care routines can benefit your self-confidence:

  • Diet

The right diet can have a positive effect on your self-confidence and self-esteem. If you fuel your body with the right food, you feel stronger, healthier and better about yourself.

  • Workout

Physical exercises boost self-confidence. If you work out, you become stronger, get in better shape and as a result, feel more confident.

  • Meditation

It is not just a relaxation practice. Meditation can improve your self-confidence in many ways. For example, it helps you recognize and accept yourself. Also, it teaches you to remove negative thoughts from your mind and stop negative self-talk.

  • Sleep

Lack of sleep has a negative impact on your emotions, while good quality sleep makes you more productive and positive.


Have positive people around

How do your friends make you feel? Do they bring you down and constantly judge you or do they accept you the way you are? People around you can significantly influence your attitudes and thoughts about yourself. If you feel down after meeting particular people, you should avoid them. Surround yourself with humans who care about you and love you.

Be kind to yourself

If you fail or make a mistake, treat yourself with kindness. If you can compassionately relate to yourself, you enhance your connection to yourself and others. You become more emotionally flexible and can easier cope with challenging emotions. Self-compassion improves your self-confidence. Every time you are in a difficult situation, remember that being imperfect is a part of life. Always be good to yourself.


Talk to yourself in a positive way

Positive self-talk can help you overcome self-doubt and accept new challenges easily. Negative self-talk limits your abilities and worsens your confidence. Next time you think you can’t handle something, tell yourself “I can do it”. If you think that you can’t do anything right and always make mistakes, remind yourself that every failure is also a valuable experience. Learn from your mistakes and do things better next time.

Face your fears

You can build your self-confidence by facing your fears. If you were putting off learning something new or applying for a promotion, it is the right time to try. Every person is afraid of something. It is ok to feel a little anxious or make a few mistakes. Every time you conquer your fear and try difficult things, you become more confident.

Be patient about yourself

Gaining self-confidence is a long process that doesn’t happen overnight. You might try something and fail, just see it as a lesson. Nobody is perfect and all people make mistakes. If you didn’t achieve your goal the first time, learn from this experience and try again.

Alessandro Rocco Pietrocola is an entrepreneur, fintecher, investor, blogger and author based in London and operating mainly in Europe, Asia and Oceania with main focus on UK, Baltic Countries, Russia, China, Hong Kong, Malaysia, Singapore, UAE, Middle East and New Zealand as area of interest! At the moment is the CEO of Astorts Group. He is an UK FCA (Financial Conduct Authority) and NZ FSPR (Financial Service Provider Register) Approved Person and has great experience as director of regulated companies.
He uses to dedicate part of his life to inspire others and help them achieve the most out of their lives. Since he was 20, he had successfully founded and managed several companies operating in the field of management consulting, wealth management and fintech. He is Member of Institute of Directors in London, Member of Changer Club in Riga, Member of Fintech Association of Hong Kong, Member of Singapore Fintech Association, Member of Non Executive Director Association in London and Member of Alumni Network of Draper University in San Francisco. He loves travelling, he is a cigars lover, an amateur golfer and a dapper man.

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